This is an incredibly poignant post about the history behind the song, “Where Have You Been?,” recorded by Kathy Mattea. This song was written by Jon Vezner about his grandparents. His grandmother suffered from some form of dementia.
What makes this personally poignant to me is that this was the exact question that Mom joyfully and buoyantly asked my twin sister and me upon waking on her “last rally” day (she went into her death sleep the next day, then died two days after that).
It was the first time in about a week and a half that she knew who I was, although we were living together and I was her primary caregiver throughout her suffering with vascular dementia, Lewy Body dementia, and Alzheimer’s Disease, and that she knew I was there with her.
I am very thankful for that day.